Have you ever heard anything like this in your house? Or classroom (at home or at school)?
"I don't want to!"
[whining] "I want somebody to play with."
[angry] "He touched me!"
[impatient] "Aren't you ready YET??"
"It's MY turn! NOW!"
"Why do we have to do - eat - look at - touch - listen to - clean THAT?"
I have. So I created a new tool. Whenever I hear my kids express a big (negative) feeling, I give them an opportunity to develop their social/emotional skills. Here's how it works...
This is an AWESOME tool!
Within a matter of minutes, children go from whiny, mad, impatient, irritable, or scared to happy. It's delightful to see them begin to realize that they are in control of their feelings. Some recent examples:
Child #1 says, "You didn't get my paper ready!" I say, "Sounds like you have some strong feelings. Why don't you take a moment and write about it in your feelings journal?" The child says he is "impatient" and an "8" on a score of 1 (low) to 10 (high.) He decides to go pet the cat to feel better. When he returns, his feelings number is now a 2! (And for the record, the paper WAS ready!)
Child #2 whines, "I want to go to Matt's house." (He writes, "I dot Get to Go to Matts Hoas") He gives the feeling a 7. Looking at the list, he can't decide what to do, so I suggest he take a walk outside to dump the compost. He agrees. When he comes back he gives the feeling a 1.
This could be used at home or school...anywhere that children have the opportunity to stop what they are doing for a few minutes* and change gears/activities long enough to recognize and process their current feelings. At home, it'd be a great thing to start during summer break!
*School note: the list of activities include movement. The document specifies that the child needs to get teacher approval before doing an activity. If the list is not well-suited to your situation, a sheet is included to develop your own classroom list of 10 activities.
This pack, appropriate for K-6th grade, comes with:
- Feelings Journal Cover (3 options: boys, girls, mixed boy/girl)
- "Things I Could Do To Change My Mood" list (3 options: home, school, child-created)
- Journal Page (options: independent reader, early reader with pictures which include boy, girl, or mixed boy & girl graphics)
- Feelings Booklist
- Feelings Book Basket Labels
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Graphics in the pack are from My Cute Graphics. (And who couldn't help but feel better after looking at such cute pictures!)